adimoga

Many of us have brothers or sisters, older or younger, fact that contributes in shaping our ego, through our position in the family.
During a discussion which I had with my brother a few years ago, I deducted the following schemes:
1. When a child is alone in the family, he/she risks becoming a selfish child, because of the fact that he/she has never shared love and everything was given only to him. It can happen in the opposite way as well, as a child who is alone in his/her family actually wants to share, and he/she will probably do that with the friends around, as well as with his/her life companion at a later time.





2. When there are two children in the family, the older one feels put aside when the second child appears and at that point the competition occurs. What happens in general when there are two brothers, is that one of them goes on the mother’s side while the other one goes on the father’s side, change which helps in shaping their egos.





3. In the above scheme I’ve represented the older child’s feelings, from before the appearance of the third child.
When the third child comes on the scene, the older one realizes better what happened with him/her as the second child came, and he/she will explain to the one of the middle age why this one feels put aside since a younger child appeared.





For example, if you have a younger brother or sister, you should know it is not a coincidence the fact that you get along well with someone and at a later time to discover that he/she has an older brother or sister.
All the things that form us affectively, including the family relationships we had with our brothers or sisters, will reflect onto the relationships we will have with the others around, along our life. The only thing we’ll do regarding this will be to multiply this type of relationship, but under the shape we prefer unconsciously, which will integrate the desire of having the things we have been missing.
Obviously all of these schemes can have many more possibilities, but I wrote only those that I believe they are the most general.